Love is not a victory march. It’s a cold and it’s a broken hallelujah. Leonard Cohen
In life, especially where love may grow, there is never effort without error and shortcoming. Vulnerability, the prerequisite to developing a relationship, is not owning victory or defeat when a relationship begins or ends. It’s about engaging. As Brene’ Brown said, “It’s being all in.”
Brown suggestsin her bookDaring Greatlyrelatingrequires “less thinking and more feeling.” Sometimes when you’re allowing yourself to become vulnerable it’s excruciating, not exquisite, and a scary thing for some of us to do. She calls it leaning in. Leaning into unpredictability helps us grow.
Let’s face it. We’re not perfect. We do not have it all figured out, especially if our brains get in the way…literally.
Brain organization is positively correlated to how we relate and form our relationships. Involvement with someone in a relationship…
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